I’m getting married!
‘I’m getting married’! That must have been the full-hearted squeal you blurted out to your friends as you excitedly announced your engagement. Congratulations! Has it fully sunk in for you yet or do you still catch yourself taking glimpses of your engagement ring every once in a while when you think no one is looking?
As the excitement of getting engaged starts to die down a bit, the realisation that yes, you are really getting married soon starts to sink in and your thoughts turn to how to start planning a wedding and where to start. Deciding where to start with wedding planning can be tough, why? because, if you’re anything like me, you already have an idea of the type of wedding you want and you have a thousand and one ideas about it, all eager to burst forth at the same time!
It is easy to turn to online storyboards like Pinterest, blogs, and Instagram for inspiration (especially in this day of social media and digital technology) and before you know it a casual browse on any of these platforms turn to hours! Or, you may do the complete opposite and retreat because you can’t deal with the overwhelm (hire a planner i.e. me, is what I will say to that!).
Wouldn’t it be easier to know where to start with your wedding planning and what to do first before immersing yourself in the myriad of inspiration out there?
Much as it may be difficult to contain your excitement of getting engaged, here are three main steps to take to start your wedding planning.
Decide your guest numbers: How many guests from both sides would you like to invite to your wedding? It’s important the two of you decide this upfront. You don’t need exact figures at this stage in your planning but a rough guide will be good to get you started. This is usually a sticking point for some couples, I find, so best to do it upfront.
Decide your wedding style: What style of wedding do you want to have? Classic elegance, opulent, rustic, chic, contemporary or whimsical? When I meet couples for consultations, I always ask them, what kind of ambience do you want to create for your wedding? How do you want you and your guests to feel on the day? What feelings do you want to evoke? Deciding these early on will really help you to know where to start your search for venues, suppliers and ultimately the overall design for your big day. It will be a waste of your time if you start to venue hunt before deciding on these.
What’s your overall budget? How much do you intend to spend on your wedding? Sit down with your beloved and work this out (whether you’re paying for it yourselves or getting contributions from Mum and Dad) You don’t need exact figures here but a rough idea will help to focus your excited minds.
You will waste a lot of your valuable time if you start to venue hunt or contacting suppliers before deciding on the points above as the three all ties in together. You don’t want to have found your perfect venue only to realise that your budget won’t quite cover it or that they have a limited capacity which won’t be great for you or your guests. So, try to contain your excitement and work out the above points. You will start your wedding planning off on the right footing once you do.
I provide full wedding planning services where I help you to tackle the points above in greater detail; from managing your budget to helping you find the venue that ticks the right boxes for you to designing your day and seeing the vision come to life as planned. Get in touch here to find out more about how I can help.
This post was first published in January 2017 and now updated in February 2018